Hypnosis for Anger Issues

The Problem
Logically you know getting angry isn’t doing you any good. You know that it doesn’t make any sense and it's costing you and the people you love. But there’s a part of your mind that keeps sending a very powerful signal to feel that way. Maybe even so powerful that you sometimes rage before you consciously realize it…even after you’ve decided to stop!

The Solution
To use hypnosis to work directly with the part of your mind that’s sending that “anger!” signal. So you have the chance to work directly with that subconscious/emotional part of your mind — the part that drives you to keep biting, even after you’ve decided to stop. So you have the chance to genuinely SOLVE the problem where it’s happening rather than just talking about it or learning techniques to manage it.

The way clients structure their anger responses is different from person to person. Even across different clients who have the same type of issue. So I'm constantly changing and adapting approaches to fit each client and the unique structure of their issue. The work usually involves hypnotherapy, but there are also many other ways to get things solved.

These are some of the approaches I combine to help clients succeed.

Hypnotherapy
Hypnotherapy is a great way to get to the core of an anger issue. It's a way of engaging the deeper/unconscious parts of the mind so clients get results they can feel, not just intellectual understandings. It's also a great state for learning and a useful tool for relaxation. These are some of the hypnotherapy approaches I use in my practice:

• Ericksonian hypnotherapy

• Classical hypnosis

• Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)

• Regression Hypnotherapy

• Ideomotor Hypnotherapy

Conversational Hypnosis
Through careful use of language, I can help clients connect and work with some very deep (and usually outside of consciousness) parts of themselves. These approaches can sometimes streamline the process, reduce performance anxiety ("Am I hypnotized?!") and make the process easier.

NLP
Neuro-linguistic programming offers a suite of tools that help clients gain more control over the way they're thinking about things. More control + more options usually = calmly made better choices.

REBT
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy is a close relative of CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy). It's a way of helping clients see some of the "filters" they've been seeing the world through so they can find more choices. On it's own it can be a bit dry and hard for clients to accept. Combined with hypnotherapy and NLP, it can be life-changing, particularly for people who feel like they just CAN'T stop getting mad.

Behavior Design
BD is based on the work of BJ Fogg, director of The Behavioral Design Lab at Stanford University. His research shows that long-term change is best accomplished when people feel good. Taking very small steps in a consistently positive way can yield powerful results, especially when someone is learning to be less angry.

Psychological Illusions/De-Hypnosis/Metacognitive therapy
Some clients trigger themselves to get angry (innocently) hypnotizing themselves into some really bad trances. The stories and images they create can be powerful drivers for a lot of bad behaviors.

Helping clients develop tools to "wake up" when they start do that can often make a big difference. The psychological illusion model offers tools to help clients to see through those thoughts in a way that allows for a lot more peace of mind. It's another way of helping clients wake up from some of the "thoughtmares" that have been driving their anger.

Metaphor
Metaphors and stories can often help clients see things in much deeper way than more analytical/left-brained conversations. They're invaluable for helping clients "connect the dots" and see outside of the places where they've been stuck.  Unstuck clients usually behave in ways have better relationships.

Progressive Exposure
Helping clients slowly work in the direction of change can often be an important part of the process. The really important thing is being sure that before they start they have new resources (usually developed through the other approaches mentioned here).

Provocative Therapy
Sometimes being very direct or playing the devil's advocate with a client can help them to see new options in a way that more circumspect approaches can't.  New options means more freedom to choose behaviors they're happier with.

EMDR/EFT
Eye Movement Desensitization Therapy and the Emotional Freedom Technique are both ways to "unstick" some thought/feeling combinations. One involves the client gently tapping some acupressure points, the other following a prompt for some simple eye movements.  Both can be helpful in resolving anger issues.

Breathwork
Certain breathing patterns act as effective tools for resetting the sympathetic fight or flight response. They can be a shortcut to creating a sense of calm that can be extremely useful, especially for clients with anger issues.

Visualization
Visualization work, much like the type athletes do to prime themselves for success, can sometimes be a useful tool with anger, particularly after a client has solved most of the issue.

Most clients I’ve worked with for anger have solved their problem. It’s been more work for some than others, and many have resolved other issues in the process. There are people who don’t get good results, though. Fortunately, I’m usually able to identify them before they start, so they can find someone who’s a better fit for them.

I structure my fees so that clients get great results.

I charge a flat fee because I find:

• Clients get better results when they commit up front to spend the money/time it takes to solve their problem (results aren’t as good when people dabble and  “try hypnosis”).
• Clients get better results when they’re not worried about how much time they’re taking.
• Clients get better results when they’re mid-process and they’re not worried about how much more it might cost them to get to the point where they’re successful.

So here, clients pay one flat fee to solve their anger problems. It’s one price, regardless of how many sessions it takes to solve the problem completely. ‘Solved’ as both defined by and judged by the client. Fees vary depending on the situation and the severity of the problem. Ideally the value the client places on the solution matches or exceeds the fee.

Fees vary depending on the client and the issue. Usually they fall somewhere in the $3-7k range.

Insurance

Sorry, I don't do any insurance billing. I've had a few clients who were able to get the work partially covered with HSA funds, but I don't know the details of how they arranged it. I just provided them with a receipt.

I guarantee all anger work with a half-back refund.  If a client reaches the ten session mark and they’re making good progress, no problem.  We continue until the work is finished.  If they’ve done that much work and they don’t feel like they’ve made progress, I guarantee the work by refunding half the fee.

It’s also guaranteed if a client has a problem down the road. “Relapses” are rare, but if they ever happen – whether it’s three weeks, three months or three years later – they’re 100% covered.  The client is back here in the office and we resolve whatever we may have missed.

Much as I’d like to, I’m not able to help everyone who’d like to resolve their anger issues. Click the button below to find out if you’ll be a good fit as a Boston Hypnosis client.